Bought something new…..

So I did…. the story is this:

Meg fell down the stairs on Tuesday. I emotionally decided that I needed a stairgate NOW. I could have got one on eBay, but I decided it didn’t to be sorted NOW. So I went into Ashford. Slightly in my favour, I bought it from an independent baby shop, but I did buy it. And I felt a lot better. Sorry, true.

Never underestimate emotions and consumption. In fact I have been buying food as ‘treats’ rather than stuff – not great for diets. Ho hum. And I still go on eBay to get shopping ya-yas. So the question is: Have I slipped back into consumption patterns from before the project? I will write another post about plans for after Mid-Winter some other time. The point is, this is just the beginning, not a 6 month break from spending. I feel I have so far to go, that cannot be addressed in the time of this project.

- Tammy

First Birthday

It was Megan’s first birthday last weekend, and I would like to report that we are fairly unscathed.

Her main present from us was a large Rocking Snail – think a big, friendly, fuzzy version of a rocking horse, and you would be almost there. Needless to say it was an e-bay bargain. We did buy her a handmade cake, but I have always considered food to be an OK thing to buy under this ‘project’.

What was different is that people were much more careful what they bought her. Relatives were keen to know actual “need” rather than random tut, and I have to say her presents were lovely. It has really made me appreciate what we were given and I dont feel overwhelmed by the amount of stuff, as we haven’t been adding to it. Having said that, my ‘top buy’ was 20p for a bag of stickle bricks at a local fair, which she totally loves.

I have to admit that I went on a baby clothes spending spree on eBay lately. Meg was wearing a lot of hand-me-downs and any ’style’ that was hers was beginning to disappear into other people’s tastes. So three smock tops and a pair of leggings have arrived, and they are truly lovely.

Back onto the topic of birthdays-its mine in a week or so, and I haven’t been this excited for ages! NEW STUFF!!!!! Shiny heaven!!!! Again, people have been asking me what I need. The strange thing is, I don’t truly need anything right now. Anything I need I am able to source on eBay. But the fun, shiny, gorgeous stuff…..that is different. Honestly, i am sitting here with a grin on my face just thinking about it. Birthdays haven’t been this much fun since I was little :-)

- Tammy

Crikey, this seemed like such a good idea…

Well this idea has been brewing for a while. It started when I bought, from Tescos of all places, “Not Buying It” which explored practically the challenges of materialism, but simply not buying anything for a year. Then came along the brillant, mad and funny “Making Do” series of video blogs on You Tube. Given the hype of this, the BBC wanted to create a ‘fly-on-the-wall’ series following families going on their own 6 month ‘not buying it’ year, we interviewed, but was deemed to be too far down the eco road to be ‘interesting’! I guess watching families truly struggle makes better TV.

On reflection, with a small baby that needs a fair amount of ’stuff’ (dear god I had no idea), so I think it would have been too much. Instead, we decided to spend mid-summer <opps we are a week late!> to winter solstice <yes that means up to Xmas> not buying anything new. The joy of it is, we felt we had to act on it NOW, to prevent a situation in which we bought loads of things in anticipation of this ‘project’. This of course left me a blind panic last night trying to buy some shoes on the internet – I failed, so <sob!> they will have to wait <sob!, sob!>.

So what I do want to gain from this (I am sure Sean will blog tonight on what it means to him)?

I am very interested / concerned / depressed about climate change and the oil crisis. I worry about the world we are, day by day, creating for my daughter. We are living in an unsustainable economic system based on a lie that we can all continue to live/drive/fly/shop at this rate without destroying the planet. We need to stop and think. We need to be more self aware of what we are doing, day-to-day rather than walk around in a consumer day-dream.

I am very aware of the change in my behaviour after having Megan. There has been a huge increase in shopping, for her and for me. For her there has been a mind-boggling amount of equipment and ‘things’ that by buying somehow makes me a ‘good mother’. Then there is the post-baby ‘crikey I need to feel better about myself’ shopping (thank you Gok Wan) – new make-up, new ‘treats’, new clothes as the weigh starts to shift – all possible under the justification of “Yummy Mummy” status – and I have fallen hook, line and sinker. There is always the question of ‘what-to-do’ with baby, and one of the easiest options is the shopping centres, with baby changing, food and entertainment all built in. But what price for the household budget and my mental sanity? I have little paid work now…time to STOP spending, not increase! Where have my ideals and values disappeared to? I aim to clarify and find them again.

So – ebay, boot fairs and charity shops from now on. What I dont want to happen is shop just as much, but in a different way. This is about working out what we REALLY need, not want/desire….

Thats enough for now…….baby to see to…….

Tammy